My dear anak buah, I am sorry I have to 'tegur' and educate some of you on good manners and Malay custom. Firstly, you must greet your relatives when you meet them. 2) You must salam them by clasping their hands, bend down your head and kiss their hand if they are your elderly relatives. If you do not kiss their hands you may just bend and lower your head to show respect while doing the salam. However you are not to kiss your own hand! ( I have noticed several young people doing that) 3) You are to dress appropriately when relatives come to your house or when you visit them. 4) Treat your relatives graciously, just like you treat other guests by offering them food and drinks.( if guests drop in at meal times, you must offer them to lunch or dine with you. They may politely decline the offer).5) When close relatives or friends drop in (especially if they come from far), be ready with a small present 'buah tangan' that you may give them when they are leaving.6) Invite them to stay overnight if they come from outstation. 7) Make them feel at home by showing them a room where they can use to rest or do their prayers. (offer them towels, prayer materials etc) 8) Send them off when thay are leaving and with the salam utter words of thanks for their visit.